When Two Becomes One
You need some extra help ...
Posted on: 26/10/2012 By: Sarah Jackson
This weeks Blog has come from our Buckingham Franchisee Claire Harris. Claire has recently lost her lifetime partner to Cancer and as a Mother and Business owner explains how Extra Help has become a part of her life in many ways ...
when you lose your partner it can become incredibly difficult to cope
What do you do and what does your partner do at home? Do you each have your 'assigned jobs'? Maybe one of you puts the rubbish out; whilst it's the other's job to do the gardening? Or maybe one of you is in charge of doing the school run, whilst the other is in charge of paperwork? But what happens when the relationship ends? Either through death or relationship breakup?
The rubbish still needs putting out, the children still need to be taken to school, paperwork is never ending, and whilst this is the quiet time of year for gardening, come April it's back to square one again.
But now it's just you; on your own. You still have to work all day, the washing still needs doing, the shopping still needs doing and the hovering isn't going to do itself. So just how does one person do all the things that two people used to do between them?
I have found myself in this dilemma, after my partner passed away. I am struggling to cope with doing all the things I already did and now I am trying to do everything he did as well. But I am only one person - how am I supposed to do it all?
We already live in a fast paced world don't we? More and more women are taking on more than just the traditional 'stay at home' role, and with ever increasing numbers of women in full time work - juggling the demands of their career and being a mother - just how does the everyday woman do it?
I have yet to find out just how so many women cope with a demanding career and motherhood. Personally, don't think I am coping at all well but maybe to the outside observer it seems as if I am - I just don't feel it. Is this how other solo mothers or fathers feel? Does one sit at home and wonder if they have the energy to make it through another day where the tasks seem endless and sleep is a distant memory?
I thank God that I am part of such a fantastic organisation as Extra Help. They can provide that extra bit of support as and when I need it. Right now it's early days; I am feeling overwhelmed and need some Extra Help to get through all those chores there just doesn't seem to be enough time to do. Maybe in six months I will have begun to cope better with the demands of being two people in one - but right now I need the Extra Help.
And in six months I don't think I will want to lose that support system, or the helper who invariably has become my friend through the continuity of having the same person week on week, who understands my situation and doesn't make me feel inferior because I ask for help. Admitting this need seems such a taboo subject, yet everyone at some point in their life needs extra help - it's what makes us human.
Extra Help can assist people in many ways. None of us know what's round the corner and it's great to know that someone is there for us when we need them the most.
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Until next time ...
Sarah co-founded Extra Help in 2010, the same year that she became Director of the OakTree Networking company - and she hasn't looked back! Both companies are completely different, however each interacts with the community on a number of levels. Prior to starting Extra Help, Sarah owned her own domestic cleaning franchise which she successfully grew, featuring in the local and national press on many occasions. Working for the NHS at the start of her career gained Sarah invaluable experience in caring within the community - working with the elderly and terminally ill.